When does compromise become sacrifice? - 15 December 2011

I think we can all agree that the one guarantee in life is change. Things will never stay the same. Sometimes things change for the worst and sometimes for the better. Change is especially inevitable when you start a serious relationship, move, get married, and/or have a child.

Large changes like this always require a certain degree of compromise in order for you (and if involved, your significant other) to adapt and be happy.

But when does compromise go too far and turn into sacrifice?

I'm asking this question because I recently took a good hard look at my own life, and realized that although I have never before been as happy as I am now (deliriously happy marriage and madly in love with being a mum), there are several things I have given up in an attempt to be the best wife and mother I can be.

Hear me out: these things that I have given up (ex: burlesque, modelling and my preferred music) were not asked of me. I made the decision on my own. Thinking that if I devoted all of my time to caring for my husband and child and letting my husband watch his preferred movies and listen to his preferred music that my boys would be as happy as can be.

Wrong!

By doing this, I realize that I may have gone on to make the ultimate mistake: changing myself into something totally different than what my man fell in love with. Don't get me wrong: he loves me. He appreciates me. But the cloud that hangs over me isn't easily avoidable. It creates concern and can be very contagious.

My tip to all of you out there who have either undergone these sorts of changes or are getting to: DON'T CHANGE ANYTHING ABOUT YOURSELF! Always, always stay true to you. The right person in your life will always support and motivate you. And by changing yourself, thinking that it will make them happier, it WON'T!

Regrets are the worst thing that could ever litter one's life.

Care to share any of your similar stories with me? Write me at ms.sabrina.grey@gmail.com


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Sabrina